Stonewalling - And No, You’re Not Going “Crazy”.

When someone you love goes silent, your whole body feels it.
This piece unpacks the quiet heartbreak of stonewalling—why it makes you question your sanity, how your nervous system is trying to protect you, and what healing looks like through somatic therapy in NYC.

Learn to turn confusion into clarity, and silence into safety.

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The 12 Most Important Boundaries

All this talk of boundaries, but what are boundaries? What categories or types of boundaries do you need to know about? Getting clear on the different types of limits and margins that exist and need our attention.

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10 Signs of An Emotionally Unavailable Man

You’re awake late at night and wondering why you’re feeling anxious in your relationship. Is he one of those “emotionally unavailable” men?

Read more to get some wisdom and guidance so you can feel calmer in your relationship.

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Learning to Love after Trauma

Survivors of trauma, just like anyone else, deserve to be able to have meaningful love relationships. Yet, just like a traveler needs to plan ahead and pack their "kit for the road", trauma survivors may hit some tricky steps in building relationships and may gain from knowing possible worries, bumps or confusion that may come up along the way.

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The "Safe Filter"

Relationship Counseling for Healthy Boundaries and Healing Co-dependent Patterns in Long Island,NY. Schedule a session with Anxiety and Relationship expert Esther Goldstein LCSW today.

What does it mean to feel safe? You feel safe when you know you're cared for, that you're protected from danger and you have someone who has their eye out for you. When you're choosing who to bring into your life, it's important to know how to assess the healthy people from the potentially dangerous people.

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Forgiveness. Can I?

Carl Rogers wisely says, “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”

Forgiveness is one of the hardest lessons to learn and even more difficult to implement. At the same time, forgiveness is one of the first steps necessary in order to create a shift, a change, steering towards a new direction for yourself. How is it then, that we forgive ourselves for bad choices, habits, broken relationships, or having been stuck in the muck of "just getting-through-ness" for a while?

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