Today gaslighting has become the en-vogue term used as a substitute for abuse, temper tantrums, being a jerk or bullying… but they are not the same as gaslighting. What makes gaslighting different? Misuse and overuse of the word “gaslighting” only threatens to add to the discomfort and confusion about this very disorienting yet common form of manipulation. In this blog we will begin to unpack the most frequently asked questions about gaslighting.
Read MoreMost people are familiar both with gaslighting and being gaslit in some way, but not everyone notices signs of it in their relationship until irreparable damage has been caused. Join me in this fictitious, yet revealing story about my client Jenny and her relationship experiences with Jhonny as she peels away the layers to find a slow and steady “gas leak” that had been keeping her feeling “off”, fuzzy, disoriented, sluggish and lonely for quite some time.
Read MoreMany of us think that when we set boundaries we are hurting people’s feelings. Allowing resentment and frustration to build up and simmer is actually what destroys relationships - not boundaries. Until you learn how to do the boundary thing on your own, a therapist can help you identify how to set boundaries properly.
Read MoreIf we take the time to look deep into our inner world, we will likely notice child parts who crave connection deeply. Healthy boundaries are not innate for many of us. It is like learning a new language and requires a “felt sense.” When we approach boundary issues using somatic techniques we get to the very root of the issue, which actually works to support and strengthen cognitive based work.
Read MoreThink of the holiday season as a perfect storm for mental health challenges. So many people struggle more at this time of year than any other. Maybe it's the extra pressure to spend more, do more and be more. Maybe it's the winter blues that make us more prone to SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder). Maybe it's extra pressure at work or family obligations? Lets get ahead of the problems...
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